Midlife Crisis

Whats the midlife crisis? Is it someone looking in the mirror one day and seeing the lines for the first time and wishing they had their youthful looks again? So in turn dye there hair, get botox for the first time, go on itunes and download the latest albums so they know what tunes there dancing to whilst they beg their now teenage children to go clubbing with them whilst all their friends call them milf or dilf.

Is the midlife crises a sudden realization that we aint getting any younger and we want to take back our lives again and stop living for someone else? Trapped in a loveless marriage or spent the last 20 years bringing up your beautiful children.

Most people don't realise that we only get one chance at this life until that very moment we look in the mirror one day and think what the fuck happened to the last 20 years.

What people dont understand is no one wants someone to be a sheep to conform and change who you are, we want the real you. Trying to conform and change who you are only creates bitterness and lost time.... Be the crazy mam that lives on a boat..... Be the strange dad that risks his life climbing mountains.... be the best cook in the world who wants to create a loving home and makes the best chocolate cake BUT never be a sheep and never think i have to someone else because society says so.

I could go on about my past and who I am today. But one thing I can say is i'm not conventional and im not your typical parent but what gives me joy is seeing my daughter's pride on how different I am. How she goes to school telling everyone im a singer or I've brought her back lava from iceland or i'm walking 300 miles. I could of easily of got a 9 to 5 with a secure wage. But Id rather follow my dreams and take my daughter on this amazing journey even if it means sometimes I loose and sometimes I win. I know i'm showing my daughter everything I am and everything i think life should be.

So the next time someone says are you going through a midlife crises say "no I've just opened up my eyes and realised i need to be who i truly am" And if you ain't hit your midlife crises yet, invite it in and let it begin now.

One life live it.
Adventure starts outside your comfort zone xxx

Digital Age & My Thoughts

As kids we all remember being sent to the shops to buy a loaf of bread and a carton of milk or having to put ten pound on the electric meter. Good old days when you got 50p off your parents and went and bought 50 penny sweets and stuffing a few in our pockets when the shopkeeper wasn't watching. I remember there there always being a sense of community. Kids playing in the street, playing knock a door runaway, camping out on the green in front of our house for the whole six weeks holidays. We was let loose to cause as much trouble as possible but we was part of the community and known as the little shits that everyone on the estate took to their hearts.

Now the digital age as crept in and overnight suddenly there was killers out there that we know about, there are bad people lurching around every corner and over time any protective parent confined there kids to the house or garden, wrapped up in cotton wool and rightly so. Anyway back to the shops they don't seem to be there anymore well not like they used to be anyways cause these big things called supermarkets took over and offered better value, easier parking, click and collect, order online, open 24 hours. For the shops to keep up would be impossible, these giants wasn't only closing our shops they were also killing our community in joint force with the digital age. Well except for the odd local Spa or Nisa which had been robbing people for years anyways.

I miss my shops, and I miss that sense of the community and I hate that finally knowing what's out there. All the bad things that are keeping our children confined to the garden. All the chavs and cocky fuckers that intimidate you and make you scared of visiting your once bustling town centre and corner shops and most of all I hate seeing people's highlight of the week of going to the supermarket for there big shop. But have we come full circle? Can we make Britain great again but in a totally new way. The digital world is becoming the silent killer of the supermarket and online sales are slowly taking over.  No longer do we have to buy George from Asda, no longer is Topman and River Island the only place to shop for you to be the cool kid and no longer does our big shop have to be at Tesco.

Little old me predicts and don't quote me on this but give it a few years either the supermarkets go totally online competing against all these quirky little online retailers that shout out to individuals that want to be different and unique in their own way or the supermarkets die out completely. The latter is what I would like because they have been greedy and destroying communities for too many years. Anyway what about the community. What about our abandoned town centres that now only house social housing flats above shops that haven't had their shutters open for the last few years.

It takes balls and it takes local councils and residents alike to see a different future a future just like our European neighbours a community where people can come together once again. Instead of a load of new shops and shopping centres why don't we build coffee shops, quirky little pubs, plant trees and flowers and build heated porches. Why don't we invite bands and musicians to play the night away and entertain us whilst we go out for a coffee or a little cocktail. Instead of the towns lined with concrete and pavements, why don't we make it green and colourful, instead of white buildings why don't we paint them blue and pink and instead of longing for a night out to catch up with friends why don't we make it all child friendly and have a catch up whilst the kids run around without the fear of cars and chavs. Life isn't all about red wine at 7.

Everything goes full circle. And the digital age which once entertained our kids in whilst we protected them from the outside world could be the answer in destroying our supermarkets that destroyed our towns and village communities.

Although the digital age showed us the world and exposed us to more danger maybe its time we all got off our arses and build a better future.

Just a theory and to be honest I don't know if I'm making sense with this but it's these silly little things I think about when I'm on the road x